Working through past trauma to live a better life today
What would your mental health be like if you could truly heal from traumatic memories?
There are so many aspects of life that are going well. Getting married, starting university, launching a new career, pregnancy— these are goals that you have been dreaming about for years. But, despite all of your earlier excitement, you’re struggling to keep it together. Your past keeps coming back to haunt you. Things that you felt were “over” keep bothering you today.
Traumatic memories do not have to define your life. You deserve to feel better and soak up all the opportunities that life has to offer. At Kasi Shan Therapy, my job is to support you in addressing these earlier wounds so that you can feel in control of your mental health. We work to heal from these traumatic events using a variety of counselling approaches so that you can thrive.
Whether it is a single incident, or a number of difficult life experiences, you have the ability to heal from trauma. Trauma refers to experiencing or witnessing a deeply disturbing event. Common consequences of trauma include: nightmares, increased anxiety, irritability, difficulty concentrating, trust issues, numbing.
Traumatic memories, when left unattended, can make us resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms (i.e. substance use, emotional eating, avoidance). At Kasi Shan Therapy, you are able to work through these wounds in a safe and nonjudgmental environment. I incorporate effective therapeutic modalities like EMDR, Internal Family Systems Therapy, CBT and DBT to support you in your healing journey.
Being pregnant and having a baby can be incredibly exciting. Or, it can be the hardest time in your life. When you bring in a combination of hormonal changes, poor sleep, limited energy, and physical discomfort, you are bound to experience some distress. I work to support parents’ mental health throughout these life-changing months.
How might mental health show up during this time?
- Difficult Birth/Pregnancy: You are unable to stop thinking about negative events surrounding a traumatic birth or difficult pregnancy. e.g. NICU visits, miscarriages, fertility struggles, elective abortions
- Traumatic childhood experiences: Raising a child can trigger us to reflect on our own traumatic childhood experiences.
- Intrusive thoughts: E.g. thoughts of harming the baby or yourself. Voicing these thoughts to a therapist does NOT mean a call to the Children’s Aid Society. Intrusive thoughts are very common with Postpartum-OCD and can be treated.
- Low self-confidence: E.g. questioning your ability to parent well, feeling other parents are “doing better” than you, struggles to balance work and home life.
- Creating attachment with baby: A common struggle with postpartum depression is the difficulty in bonding with your baby.
- Anxiety: Constantly worrying about your parenting skills, the health of the baby or how others may perceive you are some of the common anxieties that are present during pregnancy and postpartum months.
- Adjustment Struggles: Learning to manage your sense of Self (your unique needs, personality traits, interests, etc.) while also balancing the responsibilities of parenthood.
Adolescence is an exciting and beautiful time where teens experience more independence, figure out relationships, and discover who they would like to become. While I wish every adolescent had a stress-free life, this is not always the case. Trauma can impact anyone, irrespective of age, finances, race, or family upbringing. Experiences like car accidents, sexual abuse, or bullying can cause an adolescent to change. You may notice your teenager starting to withdraw, express increased irritability or resort to scarier forms of coping (e.g. self-harm or substance use). My goal in therapy is to work with youth to create a safe space to talk and work through these hardships. I bring parents into the therapy sessions when the youth is ready so that long-lasting changes can occur.
Trauma is a fact of life.
It does not, however, have to be a life sentence.
How do I begin my healing?
- Arrange a time for a free consultation (we can do this online or via phone/email).
- During this chat, we will get to know one another. You will have space to express your treatment goals, and also clarify if you feel I am a good fit for you as a therapist.
- We establish a treatment plan that feels comfortable for you, and we begin the work
- We continue working at a pace that is effective and challenging until your goals are met