Why am I feeling stuck in my trauma?

Even years after a traumatic experience, we can feel stuck in a place of emotional distress. In therapy, I noticed that many trauma survivors would struggle to find self-compassion. They would get caught in an endless loop of self-blame and resentment. Other clients were keen to begin therapy; however, they were easily overwhelmed once theyContinue reading “Why am I feeling stuck in my trauma?”

What is EMDR therapy and how does it help my PTSD?

It’s frustrating when you’ve been to therapy for many years and no amount of talking has truly helped you recover from traumatic events. While I practice CBT, DBT and other forms of traditional talk therapy, I have shifted my practice to focus heavily on EMDR to help process difficult memories that seem “stuck”. EMDR therapy,Continue reading “What is EMDR therapy and how does it help my PTSD?”

Why leaving an abusive relationship is so hard

How often have you been asked, “Why don’t you just leave?” It’s a common comment made by some well-intentioned (or perhaps not so well-intended) friends who have never experienced intimate partner violence. The following are some of the many reasons why you may be having a hard time making this decision. Love– yes, there isContinue reading “Why leaving an abusive relationship is so hard”

Why is everything harder after trauma?

When we think of trauma, it’s easy to focus on big ticket issues (i.e. experiencing violence, parental neglect, car accidents). We tend to overlook the frequency of little traumas that are experienced daily (i.e. harsh rebukes from parents, feeling unloved, financial strains). The accumulation of these big and little traumas make a significant shift inContinue reading “Why is everything harder after trauma?”